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When I reference “The Concept of Broadway,” I am not just referring to the 41 theaters in Manhattan. I am talking about everything from that “Great White Way” to the kid in the middle of nowhere listening to an OBC recording on loop. When I say Broadway I am talking about the culture, the industry, and the Theatre Kid™️ lifestyle. I am writing this letter as someone who was asked why I wanted to study theatre in my college interview and my response was, “I don’t want to, I have to.” I am coming from the perspective of a person…


Kelly Clarkson has always been a major source of inspiration of comfort for us. Since she was on American Idol, we have loved her as a singer and performer. As we grew to know her as a songwriter and storyteller, our admiration grew. Now as a person who does all of those things myself, I am deeply influenced by the magic of Kelly Clarkson. When you’re in High School, Kelly’s album “My December” will be crucial in getting you through a breakup. In college, her music will help you to unpack the years of sexual trauma you’ve been holding onto…


Dear Baby Maybe,

As you’re growing up, you’ll find you struggle with your weight in an uncommon way. Most people who struggle with their weight feel like they have too much of it. We actually have the opposite problem. You’re realizing that you’re uncomfortable with how skinny you are, because people are constantly calling you out for being too thin.

All of the time people are telling you to eat a sandwich and making comments about how small your body is. You are constantly assumed to be weak or frail, and as you get older you will find you are…


Dear Baby Maybe,

I did an experiment in college. My friends were doing a project to highlight the lack of accessibility on campus. The experiment consisted of us only walking places a wheelchair would be able to go. No stairs, no narrow pathways, nothing you’d have to step over to get past. And it was incredibly frustrating. I gave up before their project was over. I wouldn’t be able to get to some classes, I was late to most of the other ones, and frustrated when I got there.

This experiment was just a project. This was a voluntary circumstance…


Dear Baby Maybe,

You are a problematic young person. I am probably a problematic older person, I just have more experience and awareness. But I’m sure there is a future version of me that can look back and tell me what I’m doing wrong and ways that I can improve. So we’re going to keep talking about privilege, bit by bit, as a way to hold ourselves accountable. I’m going to make you think about things that we have the luxury of being able to ignore. We’re going to dedicate some time to unpack our privilege.

A great place to…


Dear Baby Maybe,

People contain complexities. People can contradict themselves. People can’t only be one thing their whole lives. That’s not how people work. As you grow into yourself, you’ll find that people have certain expectations for you based on how you are perceived. I break through those expectations and challenge assumptions every day by not fitting into the boxes people have given me.

People can be categorized as good or bad, but they do not need to be exclusively one or the other. Destroy every binary, right? “Good” and “bad” are subjective, and based on who’s judging. Someone who…


Dear Baby Maybe,

In case you haven’t gotten the hint, I think most holidays are pointless. Capitalism and bigotry have gotten in the way of remembering what most of the days really mean and stand for. You take joy in certain holidays, mainly for commercial value and a reason to dress for the occasion. We don’t get invested in why the holiday is happening like most people do because we don’t like the calendar to tell us when to feel.

Of course I bring this up on the most ridiculously arbitrary holiday of them all, New Year’s Eve. A holiday…


Dear Baby Maybe,

On Thanksgiving I explained to you that when you’re older you won’t have to “go home” for the holidays. I told you home can be where you are. And I told you that because there will be several holidays in your future that you will spend alone. And that is completely okay. You are allowed to be alone if you want to be. You are allowed to spend any day how you want to spend it.

Spending Christmas with our biological family has become increasingly difficult for me to do. Telling them that I’m trans had a…


Dear Baby Maybe,

If I’m being completely honest, our relationship with Lance was overall pretty toxic. We fought a lot and got on each others’ nerves seemingly more often than we got along. But he was our first substantial relationship and our first love. We learned a lot in our time with Lance. We learned a lot about ourselves and about us in relation to others. These learnings are important thinks to remember.

Lance will be the first person you share a lot of yourself with. You will also be the first person Lance shares a lot of himself with…


Dear Baby Maybe,

You’ll meet Lance at the end of our Senior Year of High School. We had a boyfriend at the time (he doesn’t really matter.) but you’ll be instantly and completely drawn to Lance. Over the summer, after breaking up with that boyfriend, we will keep in touch with Lance since we are going to be starting at the same college in the fall. And when that fall comes, you’d better believe we start spending a lot of time with Lance.

You will spend a lot of time with Lance and Alyssa, who will be your best friend…

Maybe Burke

Theatre artist and trans advocate telling the stories that haven't been told. Founder of The Trans Literacy Project. @believeinmaybe maybeburke.com

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